legal woe concering my prized 69 ford

[sacramento_ford]

well, i was divorced single and losing weight and feeling great.i fell in love and now I'm fat again .. heres my country song. but met a woman who has put me up in her home
at no charge being i did chores ect.but we are a couple, so my brake shop charged me 250 to get it running and tommorow she will pay 750. but being she loves me so much , she wants the title of the truck, after losing my last car a ford focus in a divorce, can someone keep your truck if they have your title. i think it would be too risky. especially if she is hell bent on revenge , i told her i had no money. I was gonna drive it home with no brakes.

[PhantomoftheBumpside]

Ouch. How about offering her a promissory note? After all a $750 loan secured by a vehicle with a, currently, over $9,000 'condition 4' book is a bit... lopsided.

If someone has the official title to a vehicle, then pretty much anything can happen.

But I can see the arguments spinning up too... You don't trust me! (Yes I do! You don't trust me asking for the title! I Just think that is too lopsided a deal.) You love that truck more than me! (Y..Nnn..ummm Ok... here's the title.)

If she won't accept a promissory note, offer her something else closer to double the value instead of 12X the value. Like something else you love, like tools... like your torque wrenches.

[sargentrs]

I'd title pawn it before I let a woman hold it over my head. Not to say she would but, after 2 divorces and on my 3rd marriage now, I've gotten a little cynical. At least with a title pawn, it's just business, nothing personal. Friends/lovers and money don't mix.

[basketcase0302]

Tells me this about a lady that would even ask:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oyqe8n-pbqQ

[F250-me]

This is headed for Judge Judy...

[guerra]

Find another way... But if brake shop charged you $250 why is she paying $750? Or am i the only one that missed something here??

[ezernut9mm]

Find another way... But if brake shop charged you $250 why is she paying $750? Or am i the only one that missed something here??

yeah dat? wha?

[Bob]

If you have intentions of paying her back in the near future where's the issue?

I can see her point. Knew a girl once that was pretty gullable and she bought her boyfriend a truck because he was in a rough way and a couple months later they broke up and he got a pretty nice truck out of the deal. That was several years ago and she's never got a dime back and knows she never will.

Regardless which side of the deal you are on I'd write a little something up prior to anything changing hands.

[thrush544]

Find another way... But if brake shop charged you $250 why is she paying $750? Or am i the only one that missed something here??

I was guessing that's a typo, but I too was currious

Personally, There is NO WAY I would sign over that title. If this is a huge issue then it in itself is not the real issue!

Maybe you could ask the garage if you could work it off or pay it off and let them keep the truck until they are satisfied.

I agree with Bob, it should be written and spelled out and signed by both.

God Bless,
Ed

[ccryder2011]

Tells me this about a lady that would even ask:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oyqe8n-pbqQ

my favorite song

[woods]

All I can give you on this (all anybody can) is opinions.

First, you probably feel a bit down about the whole situation in it's entirety. Don't, you're not the only one in this kind of circumstance. As men, we are programmed to be the "provider" at all times. So when you're in a roll where you're not, it can sting pretty good.

Which brings me to my next point. You were married before, so I am going to assume you have probably paid for a lot of things for women. I'm not talking about fancy stuff, just everyday stuff that was never really even discussed. Can you even imagine the crap storm that would take place if you asked for the title to a woman's car after you paid to have it fixed?

Anyway...it sounds to me like you need to "try" and have a calm talk with her. You don't have much buddy, she of all people knows that. One thing you have, the one thing you own, the one thing THAT MAKES ME STILL FEEL LIKE AN F-ING MAN IS MY TRUCK THAT I OWN...Okay, don't shout that part, I was getting worked up. If she does not understand that or more to the point WONT understand that, then I think you need to try something else.

Perhaps this is a bigger deal to me than it is to you, which is fine, this is all just opinion based anyway. I can tell you what I would do in your shoes. I would find another way to pay that did not involve possibly giving up my truck.

What happens when/if she decides to give you the boot? Never, EVER underestimate how low and mean a gal can get. You always think "Ah, she's not that type and I have seen no signs of that" then the next thing you know, you're in the street in your undershorts and she's filing papers to repo your shorts. Many of them WILL try to destroy you and turn it into their favorite hobby to do so.

Now, I'm not saying to live your life with her in constant suspicion that she may shank you any second. What I am saying is that you should use your head and think about the future. I find it (and have found it) very beneficial to think in terms of "what if". What if she tells you to get out (the truck belongs to her). What are you going to drive to find work? You may need to sleep in that truck.

The truck is yours, give her something else if you have it, just hang onto the truck with a death grip is my advice.

[sacramento_ford]

What happened is she offered to get it running., they fixed it for 250 ., then they said it has no brakes. So i told her they said its gonna cost 750. She gave the go ahead. Now its stuck at shop the second day. I fully intend to pay her back. I'm not the type. I gave her 80, and struggling to sell stuff and on ebay.Her ex husband took her prized 40 s
Classic car that was restored. Hope she ain't bent on revenge with me.

[woods]

Well, since you need to pay the shop and you made no other arrangement with them before hand, that is a must. So unless you have another way, you're pretty much going to have to take it.

So if I have this right, there was no mention of wanting the title when it was 250, but since it's now 750 it was asked for?

I can see her side of it, but I don't like it. I don't like how this is not a two way street if the rolls were reversed. If you were bucks up and she was living with you, would you ask for the title to her car if you had it fixed for her? No, probably not.

However, if you were borrowing money from a friend, you might offer something similar up for collateral until you paid him back. Thing is...that seems a bit chilly to me for the gal you're living with to pull. Keep in mind that I am extremely picky when it comes to the type of friends I have and the type of gal I will be with, so you need to take this next part for what it is...The opinion of a somewhat bitter middle aged man who has been taken advantage of his fair share in life.

Since you are already neck deep in this situation, I don't see you as having a lot of choice here unless you can reason with her. If not...I would just go ahead and do it and in HAVING to do that, I would then know just what type a person I was dealing with. One that does not trust me, one that is seeing our relationship much more shallow than I thought it was. It would make me totally reevaluate the type of relationship I was in. More like a fun fling than anything serious. Which is fine, but it would never be allowed by me to grow into anything more.

My gal has proven herself to be the most trust worthy person I know over the years, very loving, caring and just an all around great person. But, I tell you what...a few years back, she got it in her head that I was running around on her (I wasn't) and you want to talk about a different person. Not going to air my dirty laundry here, but I don't think I would have even been left with dirty laundry when she was done with me. So, while I do love her dearly, it's now in the back of my mind that she is more than capable of dropping an A-bomb on my life. A guy has to watch his back.

[sacramento_ford]

oh well if she doesn't trust me on paying her back. and its messed up she is putting me in this position. if she doesnt want to do that ,after approving it, and letting them do the work, thats messed up, i would have had it towed home. i assumed it was gonna be paid for and i can pay her back once i start my temp job next month. ive given her 450 in ebay money and 80 cash yesterday. i still owe her, i don't like owing people so i have no idea who she is comparing me too, im getting pissed, best time to hit the road if she continues this and put me in a worse situation. nice girlfriend huh

[Ranchero50]

So you are living the life of a gigolo and complaining to the forum about your living arraingements? I don't understand but I think Woods has put it pretty plainly in regards to the truck.

Jamie