Had a women over to the place for a while today. She came by to look at the dinette of Vicki's I want to pass on to her. (My late wife, Vicki, and I have known her for several years. Vicki liked her a lot.) She loved the dinette, and when she left she gave me a big hug that lasted longer than a hug needs to. When I deliver the table and chairs to her she is fixing me dinner. Kinda has me spooked. My feet are still not back on the ground, and my heart is pounding. Hell the hug was 3 hours ago. What the heck. I just want a friend, not a dependent. She has to have her own place, $$$, and not want to get married. (Repeat as often as need be.)
Heck I haven't dated for like forever. I sound pretty shook up for a 62 year old. Well I am. I really like her, just hope she doesn't want more than I am willing to give.
Shook me up so much that I came inside. Couldn't even work on the Bump. She is 8 years my junior.
Is it to soon? I guess I have to answer that. I know it is different for everyone. I think I will step back and think about this, like for a year or two
I stayed single 6 years after my 2nd divorce and focused on myself, my mother and my kids. Took that time to focus on my personal introspection, emotional healing and things that I (that's a capital I) enjoyed doing. Best 6 years I've spent. I had a couple of flings and a semi-serious relationship that lasted about 6 months before her true colors started showing. When I started getting serious with my current wife, I took emotion out of the picture and evaluated her as a "life partner" instead of "the love of my life". While I did, and do, love her, love is what got me in trouble with the 1st 2 wives. I let the heat in the beginning cloud my judgement. Heat cools and then you're just left with the persona. I evaluated her on her income potential, work ethic, spiritual preference and dedication and what kind of mother she was to her adult children, grandmother to her grandkids, friend to her friends and daughter and sister to her mother and siblings. Also, how she was with my mother and kids. Oh yeah, and I met her mother. I've always heard that if you want to know what your wife will look like in 20 years, meet her mother 
Well, at 70+ years old, her mother is still an attractive woman and she puts in 10-12 hour days at a job she's had over 20 years. We've been married 10 years this month and I believe we'll be together from here on out. Sorry to drag this out, I guess it needed saying. Thanks and hang loose, John!
